This is my first ever blog and after much procrastination and huge dose of imposter syndrome – I find my muse and courage to write while standing on the dunes in the pouring rain. It’s no surprise that I find myself composing this here because this is the place where I feel most at ease. Where my thoughts ebb and flow and I feel able to connect or ignore them. This is the place where I have always done my best thinking, where I have had many an internal conversation to sort things out, get things straight in my head and from where I have taken my inspiration.
So, looking at the sea now, I am minded to recall Nancy Kline the founder of Time to Think who expresses that thinking comes in waves and pauses, and it is in those waves and pauses that the thinker gains new insights. As I stand atop the sand dunes watching the sea, I am struck by how the waves shape and evolve the shoreline much like our own thinking shapes feelings, emotions and behaviours. Like waves our thinking is constant, sometimes intense and sometimes gentle. A stormy tempestuous sea sends waves crashing onto the shoreline, launching forth pebbles, seaweed, tree roots of long forgotten ancient woodlands and other flotsam and jetsam discarded by humans. And like those waves rolling onto the shore so our thinking rolls into our awareness, whether helpful or not. Each thought able to move us in some way, shape what we will do just as the waves shape the shoreline.
I consider the stormy crashing waves to be akin to something many of us find ourselves engaging in – overthinking. Too many thoughts, recurring thoughts, constantly crashing in, causing overwhelm and a sense of being stuck, not knowing which way to turn. Riding and taming this overthinking can be hard, you want it to stop and yet the more you try the louder and more intense it becomes. For some the overthinking becomes worse at night just as you are getting ready to sleep or you may wake during the night to their relentless cycle of ebb and flow.
The good news is that there is a way of riding the waves of thought, to see them for what they are, transient, often helpful and sometimes not. Learning to ride the waves of your thinking and be at ease with it is something you can learn. How you respond to your thinking now is a learned response, which you can change with awareness and understanding, can’t you?
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